In today's society, divorce has become commonplace in our lives. The couple are now getting a divorce for many different reasons, or because a spouse has an affair, a loss of feeling romantic, marital conflict, and the type of other issues. Most divorces with children that are really young and because of their age, they do not have any idea about how to deal with this type of situation. All of us here live in the state of Kansas, all of us go to the Olathe South High School, and we all have a friend or know of someone who has dealt with divorce. We all have experienced this or know how it works in a certain way even go through it yourself or not. Children are ordinary people most affected; they will have to learn to deal with their parents' divorce when such a young age, affect them positively or negatively. Although divorce is not really a good thing, sometimes it can be positive; happy children, happy parents, and allow them to mature. Parents can be separated better for the kids because then they do not have to deal with parents who fight. If they are placed in a better environment and stable it can affect them in a positive way. Sometimes it is better for the children if they have been in abusive environments, such as; parents, siblings, or for their own abuse. If parents are not happy, then more than likely the kids happy, because they look to the parents. Communication skills better in the long run will help parents and children to be more understanding with each other. Not many divorces end well or even a good start, but it might be a better thing for everyone in the family depends on the situation. Divorce can be a negative cause alienation whether it is children who have lost their self-esteem can not trust anyone, parental favoritism, or financial aid for college. Although I did not have to deal with my parents divorced (and hopefully I will not), my mother had to go through it and say that it is a very difficult thing to go through. Children seem to lose their self-esteem due to lack of relationship they have with their parents. With people said they were more likely to suffer and have more problems than other children with both parents. The children also start blaming themselves for the cause of the divorce. Because not know and / or understanding the real reason, the end result with the additional stress placed on the child. As children grow older, they tend to build a stronger bond with one or both parents. A friend of mine is going through a divorce with her and her parents say she is having trust issues with one of her parents. Not being able to trust anyone who does not make them share their true feelings because they feel abandoned or alone without whom they can talk. When children do not have anyone to talk to them can be difficult to control because they do not know any other way to share your feelings. Putting children in certain situations where they have to choose one parent over the other could result in serious injury. This can lead to a child being upset with honest about his feelings for the poor results may have, such as; parents furious because of what was said, can not be seen from the perspective of the child. When parents separate fund for schools go down most of the time because the parents do not make as much money. Statistics show that about $ 1,800 at the parent provides at about $ 1,000 and that the father character. With the money from the parents of students take it more stressful than for individuals making them pay for college in any way they can find. Divorce is difficult for anyone to deal with, but while the parents are trying to fix their problems, they need to ensure that they are not too self-centered and more attention more for their children. Emotions are an important part of life, especially when dealing with something very difficult divorce. Children seem to be insecure and fear for the future will bring for them. Children of divorce question their future due to the uncertainty that they experienced. Sadness has a big impact on how they act and think. They may think that they will never have a real family again and their way of life has ended, for example; My friends always ask to speak because she says her life is a disaster like that and she did not know what to do to fix it. If sadness too long can lead to stress and / or depression. Anger plays a big part because if the child does not fully understand or agree with the divorce it can cause them to act up. When they do not understand the context of a divorce, it can lead to resentment. Placed under a lot of pressure causes them to do more of what they need to do, such as; help around the house and not do their homework. Children will hide their stress by always keep themselves busy by helping with greater responsibility, participation in school, etc. Emotions are something that everyone, no matter what it is, but Children sometimes need to talk to someone so they can express how they really feel about things rather than hide them. Before making the choice to divorce, parents should consider their first child as well as the long term effects it can have everyone participate. Family counseling to understand and explain the effect should be something all the family in a difficult situation should be considered. Divorce can be an easy way for parents to open the door but a tragedy within the mental health of children and society. I hope none of you have to go through something difficult in your life whether it is your parents go through it, or you and your spouse as you get older.
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